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Don't come back, then you become one of the evil many who live in the decadent West.  (or at least wait until GWB is out of the White House.)

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Mandalorian Assassin wrote:

I honestly don't think that relationships are all they have been cracked up to be. I don't see the use of them.

No matter how antisocial you are, you will need someone at some point in time. Trust me. I might very well be the least social person on the planet (to the point of garnering shrink attention), but I realized the aforementioned point and got to making myself more talkative. It's important. Besides, having a boyfriend/girlfriend is mad fun.

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Kiwi wrote:
Mandalorian Assassin wrote:

I honestly don't think that relationships are all they have been cracked up to be. I don't see the use of them.

No matter how antisocial you are, you will need someone at some point in time. Trust me. I might very well be the least social person on the planet (to the point of garnering shrink attention), but I realized the aforementioned point and got to making myself more talkative. It's important. Besides, having a boyfriend/girlfriend is mad fun.

absolutely. In my opinion having a bf or gf isnt a bad or good thing. a relationship just like everything else is measured differently by the quality and the people involved. im in one and i enjoy it very much. but if i wasnt then i would be happy being single as well.

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Kiwi wrote:
Mandalorian Assassin wrote:

I honestly don't think that relationships are all they have been cracked up to be. I don't see the use of them.

No matter how antisocial you are, you will need someone at some point in time. Trust me. I might very well be the least social person on the planet (to the point of garnering shrink attention), but I realized the aforementioned point and got to making myself more talkative. It's important. Besides, having a boyfriend/girlfriend is mad fun.

If you were just referring to regular friends I'd agree with you, but as this is the Bf/Gf thread I will assume that you're not, and if that is the case I need to correct you(And it's not necessarily a matter of anti-socialness): Don't assume you know everyones' mind. There are those of us who will never feel the need for a relationship of that kind, ever. Trust me.

FettFan79 wrote:

(As to another topic, yes I think the term is asexual)--Sol--I got a kick out of your sig, too!  I just saw Happy Feet, and now I'm picturing that...lol

Yeah, it's a pretty funny quote smile Not sure where Darknovae got it though.

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Well, considering I was born and raised in the U.S, I may already be one of those "the evil many who live in the decadent West."

Not all Americans support Bush.  I was, however one that did. (Keyword, was.)

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I know I've been off of the forums for a long time now....mostly due to the rigors of college life and an ensuing addiction to F.E.A.R. (online shooter).  I'd be suprised if many of you remember me too well, since I see a lot of new faces since I've been gone...
And I'm only here to, more or less, put the last nail in the coffin of my absence from the BFFC...it's been fun, but I've gone and found me a girlfriend now.  And I can't stop talking to her, I love her like crazy.  ^_^ So it's adios for now...only appropriate to post this in the bf/gf thread anyways, since she's the reason I may never see any of you again. tongue

I'll be back in the summer though....

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That's too bad. Goodbye for now.

take it easy baby take it as it comes

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I could go either way on the BF/GF issue. On the one hand I was in a relationship for four years that was parasitic and abusive. It was sandbags off the balloon when that was over. On the other hand, I met this man online whom I am really compatible with (after long last) and could be very happy with. It is finding the right somebody and working at it that is the challenge.

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As for me, never been on a date, never had a boyrfriend, and only ever had a crush once, and that was when I was 12.  No regrets pal, no regrets.  I'm not actually allowed to date till I'm 16 (bout a year to go on that), but even if it was allowed, I wouldn't.  Highschool freshmen are waaaaaaaaay, to young to be dating.

As for what us girls like, DANCE, DANCE, DANCE, DANCE, DANCE.  Most boys just seem to have an issue with actually asking us to though.  Come on ya'll, get some guts!

As for how I feel, I haven't really liked anyone that way, and if I have, I squashed it.  Lets just wait till we get a chance to know them first, be friends, and learn more about them that way.  Crushes just make everything messy.  You can't even hardly talk to whoever-it-is, just cuz your too embarassed to hardly say a word.  So I got over it. End of story.  And not heartbreak, no misery, no guilt, and no regret.   Yay for not-obsessing-over-getting-a-boyfriend-just-cuz-it-seems-like-everyone-has-one-even-though-most-people-don't.

And BTW, I completely agree with you, 11 is waaaaaaaaaaaaay to young to have a boyfriend.

Pheonix023 out.

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Pheonix023,
Its alot harder to ask a girl out than you think.
But I do agree with you, be a friend first. Thats what I did. She was my best friend for 3-4 months before I asked  her out.  But that relationship is since gone. School was to stressful for a Girlfriend.  She is still a close friend though big_smile

-BD

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Pheonix023 wrote:

As for what us girls like, DANCE, DANCE, DANCE, DANCE, DANCE.  Most boys just seem to have an issue with actually asking us to though.  Come on ya'll, get some guts!

Chivalry vs Feminism. Some guys are afraid to ask girls to dance, but why can't a girl ask the guy? All I hear nowadays is "girls should have equal oppertunities" "Women can do everything men can" "Men are chauvanist pigs" (Not as popular but heard)

And yet those same women expect the man to automatically pay for the meal. To hold the door for them. (I know I'm sorta blowin it out of proportion, but it's true.) I just think that women should either accept equality everywhere.

And this isn't based on everyone, because I do know some girls who go dutch. I also know my friend's g/f accepts everything he needs because he does the same for her.

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Kiwi wrote:
Mandalorian Assassin wrote:

I honestly don't think that relationships are all they have been cracked up to be. I don't see the use of them.

No matter how antisocial you are, you will need someone at some point in time. Trust me. I might very well be the least social person on the planet (to the point of garnering shrink attention), but I realized the aforementioned point and got to making myself more talkative. It's important. Besides, having a boyfriend/girlfriend is mad fun.

It depends, I suppose.  Nothing on Earth (Or anywhere else) can shake me on this one.  And many have tried.  To me, a girlfriend is far too much trouble to go through.  It's just not for me, sorry.  I respect the other opinions here, and if that's what you guys want, fine by me smile.  I just don't see myself as that kind of person.

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I remember when my Ex GF asked me to a dance. I thought it was pretty cool.
But strangly, when I broke up with her......She went to ARC.....Talk about strang....

BD

18 pages of this. Wow thats alot of people. wink

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Fetterthanyou wrote:

Chivalry vs Feminism. Some guys are afraid to ask girls to dance, but why can't a girl ask the guy? All I hear nowadays is "girls should have equal oppertunities" "Women can do everything men can" "Men are chauvanist pigs" (Not as popular but heard)

And yet those same women expect the man to automatically pay for the meal. To hold the door for them. (I know I'm sorta blowin it out of proportion, but it's true.) I just think that women should either accept equality everywhere.

And this isn't based on everyone, because I do know some girls who go dutch. I also know my friend's g/f accepts everything he needs because he does the same for her.

By the same token, girls have the same issues asking guys. I always pick the one that's not even remotely interested in me, which is why I've stopped trying for now.
I have no problems paying for my own food and have been known to argue when someone wants to pay for mine.
I dunno... even as recent as four months ago, I felt very lonely, like there was something terribly wrong with me since I've never had a BF. Now I'm back to not caring, and it's good. I don't think one's life should be defined by someone else.

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SD_Chick wrote:

I don't think one's life should be defined by someone else.

Very true SD_Chick.  We are our own persons.  However, we are also human beings which is naturally a social being.  So it's only natural to feel lonely at times.  But what makes you feel good in the end is what's important for your well being.

  I haven't had a girlfriend now for a long time.  At times I feel pretty lonely, not having someone I can sit and talk with, or cuddle up on the sofa and watch a movie with.  But hey, this is the course that I chose, and when it comes down to it, I'm pretty happy.

  Sometimes, having a mate isn't really what it's made up to be.  It can be a pain, and it can be very hurtful.  I remember when I was younger, I didn't understand why people had girlfriends.  I thought to myself "They are only going to break up again, there never getting married so why not wait?"  I suppose I thought that your only bringing pain to yourself every time you hook up with someone and breaking up with them a short time later.  I never understood really.

  And I remember my first girlfriend, Kathryn.  Cute girl.  Very sweet.  But I remember in a little love note I had gotten, it said "I can't wait for all the fun times we will have this year."  It sorta hit me, that she had no intention of being with me for longer then a year.  I found that a waste of time and broke it off.  If you are going to put a time limit on such matters, then what is the use?

  And every time I get with a girl, it usually ends up with heartbreak on my side.  I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I suppose I "fall in love" too fast, too soon. 

  But oh well, some things aren't meant for some people.

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Kel Solaar wrote:
SD_Chick wrote:

I don't think one's life should be defined by someone else.

Very true SD_Chick.  We are our own persons.  However, we are also human beings which is naturally a social being.  So it's only natural to feel lonely at times.  But what makes you feel good in the end is what's important for your well being.

  I haven't had a girlfriend now for a long time.  At times I feel pretty lonely, not having someone I can sit and talk with, or cuddle up on the sofa and watch a movie with.  But hey, this is the course that I chose, and when it comes down to it, I'm pretty happy.

  Sometimes, having a mate isn't really what it's made up to be.  It can be a pain, and it can be very hurtful.  I remember when I was younger, I didn't understand why people had girlfriends.  I thought to myself "They are only going to break up again, there never getting married so why not wait?"  I suppose I thought that your only bringing pain to yourself every time you hook up with someone and breaking up with them a short time later.  I never understood really.

  And I remember my first girlfriend, Kathryn.  Cute girl.  Very sweet.  But I remember in a little love note I had gotten, it said "I can't wait for all the fun times we will have this year."  It sorta hit me, that she had no intention of being with me for longer then a year.  I found that a waste of time and broke it off.  If you are going to put a time limit on such matters, then what is the use?

  And every time I get with a girl, it usually ends up with heartbreak on my side.  I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I suppose I "fall in love" too fast, too soon. 

  But oh well, some things aren't meant for some people.

I agree.
I don't really give a crap anymore.  Way to much time wasted.  I have better things to do.

BD

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I agree. If it won't last, if there's no future in it, then what's the point of getting attached to someone?

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ARC Fett wrote:

dont you think she said that, because Next year, she might not plan that far ahead. Nice post though.

Thanks.  But you'd have to have read the note yourself to fully understand what she meant.  She did mean it as just a year thing.  I had even asked her about it and she said "Well, isn't that how long they last?"  But I suppose we both were too immature.

Like I said, some things aren't meant for some people!

You just have to find what makes _you_ happy.

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Kel Solaar wrote:

However, we are also human beings which is naturally a social being.  So it's only natural to feel lonely at times.

We're naturally social beings?!? Wow, this is news to me!
(if you ever meet me in person you will realize there are exceptions big_smile  )

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what would you guys (or girls) say is an appropriate age to start dating? what is the age where someone can have a  meaningful and long lasting relationship? and why...

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You can't really put an age on it because each person matures at his or her own rate.  But there are some requirements in my mind.  You got to be able to drive.  It would kind of seem lame to have your parents drive you everywhere with your girlfriend.  And you have to be in a position where you are capable of supporting you gf/ bf as well as youself.  Having a girlfriend or boyfriend is expensive, trust me I have friends who are proof, one has a nice ZO6 that he recently put new headers on, and he doesn't have a girlfriend.  And his brother has a little 4 cylinder Honda that almost no money has been put into, and he has a girlfriend.

Back to the age question it really depends on the person (and of course the parents).  If you have been allowed to date it all depends on you.  And if you've moved out of your house, ignore what I just said.

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It seems immaturity is an "in" thing now, as odd as that sounds. I know lots of college age people that act like they're 14 or younger- never show up for class, always whine and cry about this or that, go through BFs/GFs like Kleenax, that sort of thing.
I say the longer you hold off on dating, the better. Previously I thought 16 was a good age for dating, but now I look back and think 18 is almost too young. With the stress of college I'm leaning more towards not starting serious stuff until I get out of school.
I think the longer you hold off on dating, the better. It gives you time to figure out who YOU are, before you lose yourself in someone else.